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Being Busy Will Break You!

Posted: December 17, 2025 in marriage
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CLICK HERE to watch the full episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast “Being Busy Will Break You!“

When couples feel near but far, the problem is rarely love. More often, it’s busyness disguised as purpose.

Our time in Miami became an intentional pause, a deliberate reset that exposed a truth WE had to face again. Being busy will break you if you are not careful. It can fracture connection, mute intimacy, and slowly pull your marriage off mission. WE were reminded that proximity does not equal connection. You can share the same space, the same calendar, even the same bed, and still miss each other emotionally.

Busyness creates motion without presence. And constant motion can hide emotional distance for years.

Through rest, prayer, and candid conversations, WE examined the stories WE had been telling ourselves about productivity, success, and doing “good things.” The goal was never a grand gesture. What our marriage needed was a renewed rhythm, fewer distractions, clearer motives, and daily choices that protect connection and shared purpose.

When Busy Becomes a Burden

One of the most sobering realizations was this. Good things can still break you when they are misprioritized.

Careers, parenting, service, and ministry matter, but they cannot replace attention at home. When busyness becomes a badge of honor, it quietly becomes a burden. WE asked ourselves a question that changed everything.

Whose vision are WE building, God’s or our own desires?

God-sized assignments often feel bigger than our capacity. They require faith, patience, and partnership. Personal ambition often feels urgent and self-driven. That distinction helped us reframe productivity as stewardship, not status. WE committed our plans to God, acknowledged seasons where parenting and careers eclipsed connection, and accepted a truth WE had to relearn. Rhythm beats perfect balance. Rhythm adapts to seasons without abandoning the covenant.

From Awareness to Action

Awareness without action does not create change.

WE are rewriting the vision and making it plain, breaking it into daily, weekly, and quarterly practices. WE are preparing to do better time-blocking with no-technology evenings, and committing to phone-free days. WE are working to identify all things that drains our attention, then establish boundaries to protect what mattered most.

Time is one of the rarest resources we have. WE decided to invest it first in our marriage, then in everything else. Whether written on paper or stored digitally, the act of writing clarified motives, strengthened accountability, and gave us a shared map for decision-making. When life pulled us off course, the plan helped bring us back.

Why Rest Is Resistance

Being busy will break you if rest is treated as optional.

Romans 12 challenged us to renew our minds instead of conforming to hustle culture. Matthew 6 reminded us to seek the kingdom first and trust God. That led to countercultural decisions, guilt-free rest, intentional pauses, and saying no to good opportunities to protect the best ones.

Unchecked busyness numbs awareness, dries affection, and can even justify neglect at home under the banner of doing good. Rest restores clarity. It protects intimacy. It strengthens faith. In marriage, rest is not laziness. It is obedience.

The Power of Intentional Pauses

Finally, WE leaned into intentional pauses.

Changing the scenery, whether a beach, a park, or a simple walk, interrupts autopilot and creates space to listen. If you work with your mind, rest with your hands. If you work with your hands, rest with your mind. These moments allow couples to prune distractions, revisit their assignment, and trust that God is ordering their steps.

Connection grows when attention is given, purpose is shared, and plans are prayed over. Presence will always matter more than proximity. A marriage on mission does not thrive by doing more. It thrives by choosing what matters most, together.

CLICK HERE to watch the full episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast “Being Busy Will Break You!“

Why is Communication So Hard In Marriage?

Posted: June 23, 2025 in Life Lessons, marriage
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Why is communication so hard in marriage?
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Communication stands as one of the most fundamental pillars of a successful marriage, yet it remains one of the greatest challenges couples face. Why is something so essential simultaneously so difficult? This paradox exists because true communication extends far beyond merely exchanging words…it’s about creating connection, understanding, and safety.

Many couples operate under the illusion that communication is happening simply because words are being exchanged. However, research shows that only 7% of what WE communicate comes from our actual words…the remaining 93% stems from our tone and body language. This highlights why so many marriages struggle with miscommunication; spouses may be talking but not truly communicating.

True communication requires active engagement, intention, and attention. It’s the difference between merely hearing words and truly listening to understand. In our digital age, where so much interaction happens through text messages and social media, the absence of tone and body language creates even greater opportunity for misinterpretation and disconnection. WE‘ve become accustomed to superficial exchanges that lack depth, leaving our intimate relationships starved for meaningful connection.

Creating a safe space forms the foundation for effective marital communication. A safe space isn’t just about physical safety, but emotional, mental, and spiritual safety as well. It’s an environment where both partners feel free to express fears, needs, and failures without judgment. They feel accepted rather than expected to be perfect, and covered with grace rather than criticism. The challenge is that many people don’t recognize what a safe space truly is, making it impossible to create one for their spouse.

Unhealed trauma significantly impacts our ability to communicate effectively in marriage. Trauma doesn’t just alter how WE feel…it rewires our brain to detect threats even in peaceful situations. This explains why some individuals create chaos even when surrounded by calm; they’ve become accustomed to turbulence. Even when a spouse genuinely offers safety, a traumatized heart might still perceive danger, creating a significant communication barrier that has nothing to do with the words being exchanged.

Our heart condition directly influences our communication style. Scripture reminds us that “a good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart… for the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Luke 6:45). Before blaming communication problems on your spouse, examine what’s in your own heart. Are you harboring resentment, unforgiveness, or pride? These internal issues will inevitably surface in your communication patterns.

Pride presents one of the greatest obstacles to effective communication. When being right becomes more important than being understood; when winning arguments takes precedence over resolving conflicts; partnership becomes impossible. Especially in Christian marriages, pride often masquerades as self-righteousness, turning what should be collaboration into competition.

Interestingly, many couples exhibit more patience and effort communicating with strangers than with their own spouses. Consider how attentively you would listen to someone speaking a different language…the focus, patience, and determination to understand. Yet with our spouses, WE often multitask, half-listen, or prepare our rebuttals instead of truly seeking to understand.

For those preparing for marriage, recognize that communication skills aren’t automatic, they require continuous development. Don’t assume love equals understanding, pay attention to how you handle conflict, ensure you share values and vision, practice vulnerability, seek healthy role models, and discuss how you’ll handle disagreements before they arise.

The journey toward better communication is ongoing, requiring daily commitment regardless of feelings. The good news is that with intentional effort, couples can develop deeper understanding, greater intimacy, and more effective conflict resolution skills that strengthen their marriage over a lifetime.

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Marriage Myths Exposed!

Posted: April 4, 2025 in marriage
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In today’s culture, WE‘re bombarded with idealized versions of love and marriage through media, movies, and music. These romantic notions create expectations that often lead to disappointment when real relationships don’t match these fairytales. On the latest episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast, WE explored three prevalent myths about relationships that can actually hinder your journey to a healthy, lasting marriage.

The first myth WE tackled was “opposites attract.” This widely accepted belief suggests that people who are fundamentally different naturally gravitate toward each other, creating an exciting dynamic. While initial chemistry between different personalities can feel thrilling—like when an introvert meets an extrovert or a spontaneous person connects with someone structured—these differences often become sources of conflict over time. What matters more than surface-level differences are shared core values, goals, and communication styles. A relationship built on complementary strengths can work beautifully, but when foundational values differ dramatically, the relationship faces constant friction. Remember: compatibility isn’t about being identical, but about having the temperament and personality to navigate life together effectively.

The second myth WE explored was the concept of “soulmates”—the idea that there’s one perfect person divinely created just for you. This notion creates unrealistic expectations about relationships being effortless and magical. When relationships require work (as they all do), people questioning whether they truly found their “soulmate” might abandon potentially wonderful partnerships. From a biblical perspective, Scripture doesn’t teach the concept of predetermined soulmates, but rather emphasizes choosing a Godly spouse and building a strong marriage based on biblical principles of being like Jesus. The logical problem with soulmates is clear: if there’s only one perfect match for each person, what happens when someone marries the “wrong” person? Would everyone else in the chain of relationships be doomed to mismatches? Real love isn’t about finding a mythical perfect match—it’s about commitment, acceptance, and creating safety for each other to grow authentically.

Perhaps the most pervasive myth is “love at first sight.” This romantic notion suggests that true love can be recognized instantly, but this confuses intense attraction with genuine love. That first “spark” is actually just dopamine flooding your brain, creating intense emotions that feel significant. But biblical love—patient, kind, not easily angered—cannot exist without shared experiences and time. How can you know if someone is patient if you’ve never seen them tested? How can you know they’re kind if you haven’t witnessed their response to others in various situations? People who constantly chase this feeling become “dopamine hunters,” abandoning relationships when the initial intensity fades, rather than putting in the work needed for lasting connection.

The biblical perspective offers a healthier framework. Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” There’s an important distinction between “finding” and “searching.” Searching implies striving or desperation, while finding suggests discovery while walking in your purpose. Just as Adam didn’t frantically search for Eve but was doing his purpose when God brought her to him, men should focus on seeking God first, developing character and purpose, and being in the right spiritual place. Similarly, women should position themselves by focusing on their relationship with God, developing godly character, and being in environments aligned with their values.

CLICK HERE to watch episode two, to gain more insights on each myth. Also, we included a list of thought provoking questions that you can answer for yourself or ask your partner to get to know more about how they feel about you and your relationship.

Eugene & LaTanya Gatewood | WE3 The Winning Team

You Want a Marriage or a Wedding? The Why Behind the Ring!

Posted: March 3, 2025 in marriage
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Marriage is often regarded as a milestone in life, meticulously planned, and celebrated. However, beyond the wedding day itself lies a multitude of conversations that should precede this monumental commitment. In the latest episode of our podcast, WE explore the multi-layered question, “Why do you want to get married”? It’s a question that extends beyond romantic notions of love and companionship; it’s about preparing for a lifetime of partnership, collaboration, and shared growth. In a society where the marriage rate is declining, and divorce rates hover around 50%, understanding the motivations and expectations behind marriage is more critical than ever.

Season 2 | Episode 1 – WE3 The Winning Team Podcast (click to view)

The episode opens with a powerful discourse on the purpose of a Christ-centered marriage. WE emphasize that if individuals are striving to emulate the qualities found in Christ, then the union itself will likely reflect those attributes. WE remind you that a marriage built on mutual faith and shared aspirations is more likely to withstand challenges. It’s about both partners focusing on elevating one another spiritually, rather than merely fulfilling traditional gender roles.

As the conversation unfolds, WE delve into the pros & cons of various motivations people have for getting married, such as:

  • Companionship & Intimacy: Finding a lifelong partner for emotional support, companionship, and intimacy.
  • Starting a Family: Building a family and raising children together.
  • Social Status & Tradition: Fulfilling societal expectations and adhering to traditional norms.
  • Financial Stability: Sharing financial responsibilities, pooling resources, and increasing financial security.
  • Legal and Social Benefits: Gaining legal rights and benefits, such as inheritance rights, healthcare benefits, and tax advantages.
  • Sense of Security and Stability: Finding a stable and secure partner for long-term companionship and emotional support.
  • Deepening Love and Commitment: Formalizing a committed relationship and expressing a lifelong commitment to one’s partner.
  • Building a Shared Life: Creating a shared home, building a life together, and experiencing life’s joys and challenges side-by-side.
  • Creating a Legacy: Building a family and passing on values and traditions to future generations.
  • Personal Growth: Learning, growing, and evolving as individuals within the context of a committed relationship.

Our discussion revealed that many individuals may feel the urge to get married simply because of the expectations placed upon them by family or cultural norms rather than an authentic desire to build a life together.

WE assert that each couple’s needs and desires are unique, and thus, they should not feel confined to follow a blueprint defined by societal expectations. Instead, WE propose several reflective questions aimed at encouraging individuals to think critically about their own motivations, such as “Did you like yourself as a child?” and “How did you learn to adjust to the differences in your partner without losing who you are?” These questions serve as prompts for deeper introspection, ultimately leading to stronger foundations within marriages.

Interdependence versus independence also comes under scrutiny as the hosts discuss common narratives surrounding independence, especially among women. The pressure to maintain individual autonomy while navigating a partnership is acknowledged as a significant challenge for many couples. However, the episode presents an alternative view—that true interdependence can lead to mutual growth and support. WE propose that understanding the importance of a balanced dynamic can foster healthier relationships, reminding you that, ultimately, vulnerability and open communication are essential to maintaining emotional intimacy.

In sharing insights from our own marriage, WE highlight that interdependence does not imply codependence; rather, it encourages partners to thrive together while embracing their individuality. This engaging dialogue ultimately sets the stage for the ongoing season, inviting you to engage and reflect on your paths toward marriage and relationships.

You are left with the challenge to reflect on your motivations for marriage, while also being encouraged to engage positively with season one of our podcast. As WE wrap up the episode, WE were clear on our mission: to initiate conversations that allow couples to explore the depths of their relationship, leading to more informed decisions when it comes to the sacred institution of marriage.

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Eugene Gatewood
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Podcast Music by Micah Gatewood

Navigating the Dating Game: Insights, Challenges, and Christian Perspectives on Relationships

Posted: March 27, 2024 in marriage
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Episode 4 | The Dating Game…

In this episode of the WE3 The Winning Team Podcast, WE dive into the complex and ever-evolving world of dating and relationships, specifically from a Christian perspective. As a married couple for over two decades, WE share personal anecdotes, experiences, and the wisdom WE‘ve gathered along our journey.

One of the most significant changes WE explore is the influence of technology on the dating scene. The rise of dating apps has undeniably revolutionized how people connect and find potential partners. While these platforms have their advantages, like streamlining the process and allowing people to filter through potential matches based on preferences, they also come with a set of challenges. The issue of authenticity in the digital age is a recurring theme in our discussion, emphasizing how people often project an idealized version of themselves online, which may not always align with reality.

Another aspect of modern dating that we discuss is the idea of having a list of expectations for a potential partner. While having standards is crucial, it’s equally important to be open-minded and not too quick to dismiss someone who doesn’t tick every box on your list. Sometimes, focusing too much on the list can make you miss out on someone who could be a great fit for you in ways you hadn’t considered.

Dating as a Christian in today’s society also brings its unique set of challenges. The conflicting messages in culture and the pressure to prioritize external success over finding a partner can make the dating landscape even more complex for Christians. In our conversation, we emphasize the need to change the narrative, stressing that God did not create us to be alone.

A significant portion of our discussion also revolves around the importance of self-love and self-awareness in relationships. Before entering a relationship, it’s crucial to understand who you are, what you want, and what you can offer. It’s about acknowledging that your identity shouldn’t be defined by your partner, and the attraction should go beyond physical appearance.

Finally, WE wrap up the episode by discussing the responsibility of choosing the right partner. The purpose of dating should be to truly get to know someone, observing how they react in various situations rather than focusing solely on their qualities. 

To sum up, navigating the world of dating and relationships requires a combination of self-awareness, patience, and a clear understanding of your values and expectations. It’s a journey that can be complex and challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, it can lead to a fulfilling and rewarding relationship.

To add a pinch of humor, WE also share a quirky habit that still annoys us after two decades of married bliss. 

Tune in for this enriching conversation on dating and relationships; you might find a new perspective on finding ‘the one’.

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Helping Couples WIN as a TEAM!

Posted: March 11, 2024 in marriage
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WE3 The Winning Team Podcast, Eugene & LaTanya Gatewood.

WE3 | WhenEver, WhereEver, WhatEver…I Love You!

What does WE3 mean anyway? So many people ask! As Christians, WE understand that without God being at the center of our relationship, WE would not have lasted over 20 years. Jesus (1)…Her (2)…Me (3)! WE3!

A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT

“I Love You!” is also an over used phrase in the world and has lost its meaning. WE wanted another way of saying it that means something to us. R&B/Soul singer Maxwell is one of our favorite artist. He has a song called, Whenever, Wherever, Whatever, that WE believe represented how we feel about one another.

Helping Couples Work Together To WIN At This Game Called Life

The wife and I love love and are passionate about marriage. With divorce rates remaining at 50% and us crossing two decades married, several couples inquire about our secret to our longevity. For us, it’s not a secret and WE will stand on the roof top to let everyone know.

Simply put…I LIKE HER & SHE LIKES ME!

We are friends who fell in love almost 30 years ago; who evolved as individuals and preserved through the challenges of life….TOGETHER!

WE love each other in spite of our differences and challenges. WE have cared enough to want to know who WE were beyond the honry-moon phase of our relationship. YEP…I said it, HORNY-MOON! :-). WE praise God for our growth and maturity.

WE will not go into details, you can listen to WE3 The Winning Team Podcast to learn more about our journey and how we made it through.

Episode 2 | The Power of Friendship

In the second episode of the WE3 The Winning Team Podcast, WE share reflections on their 21-year journey of partnership. WE candidly discusses their wins, missteps, and the lessons they’ve gleaned from their shared life. 

This episode is not just about recounting their experiences; it’s about initiating a dialogue about the right expectations and informed decisions that go into a lifelong commitment like marriage. WE delve into the concept of submission in marriage and discuss how their expectations have evolved over the years.

WE highlight the importance of having a common goal in a marriage. WE argue that while individual tasks within a marriage may differ, they work together to complement each other, contributing to a harmonious and successful partnership. WE emphasize the importance of figuring out how to form a team and create a common goal, thereby underlining the significance of partnership and cooperation in a marriage.

One crucial aspect WE touch upon is the importance of building a friendship before entering a marriage. WE believe that this foundation can be the bedrock of a successful union. It is this friendship that can help a couple stay focused on their common goals. Additionally, it is the recognition and expression of individual feelings that can bring a couple closer together.

In discussing the intricacies of a long-term matrimonial bond, WE also share their process of self-discovery. WE discuss how WE have evolved as individuals while staying committed to our common goal(s). WE share how WE have managed to navigate the complexities of maintaining individuality while working towards a shared objective.

This episode serves as a valuable guide for those who are married, considering marriage, or aspiring to marry someday. Whether you are single, engaged, or a veteran in the marriage game, the reflections WE shared can provide valuable insights for your journey.

Lastly, this conversation offers an eye-opening, fresh perspective on marriage. It invites listeners to reflect on their own relationships, encouraging them to understand and appreciate the dynamics of a long-term partnership. It emphasizes the importance of teamwork, understanding, and mutual respect in a marriage, offering invaluable lessons for a successful matrimonial journey.

Eugene & LaTanya Gatewood

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