This is crazy! We are less than a week away from our ONE AND ONLY son, moving across the country to attend college (going HOME as he calls it). Whateva! But seriously, as a parent, this is a HUGE transition and as time ticks, our minds race to ensure that we are doing everything that is needed. After all, he will not be down the street where we can just pop in. He will be 800 miles away.
Our concern is not only all of the things that are racing through our minds, but what about all of the things that we DON’T EVEN KNOW THAT WE SHOULD BE THINKING ABOUT!?!?!
OK… that was our thoughts about 6 months ago, but then my wife found this book, “How To College: What To Know Before You Go (and When You’re There)”, by Andrea Malkin Brenner & Lara Hope Schwartz.
Initially, my wife would read a chapter or two before bed and every time she closed it, she would say in a really light voice, “this is a good book.” After hearing that statement a few times, she asked me a serval questions to ponder.
Then it hit us, this will be a family affair. We will read this book and have conversations over dinner for the next few months. So we did!
We assigned chapters to read and walked through what we got out of the chapters and then attempted to implemented what we learned.
The authors describe the book as, “The first practical guide of its kind that helps students transition smoothly from high school to college” and I can vouch that it has been that and more…a GAME CHANGER!
Now…you have to make your own decisions. We are not experts, so we are not telling you what to do or think. We are simply giving you something to think about, if you choose to purchase and read the book.
We won’t go into all of the details (you can click here to buy paperback for yourself or click here if you prefer Kindle), but we will simply give you two chapter examples of how this book has blessed our whole life (as my wife would say).
CHAPTER 2: Doubling or Tripling Down…Sharing Your Living Space
This chapter breaks down 1) living with a roommate, 2) questions to expect, 3) Tips for reaching out in advance, and 4) questions you should NOT ask…along with a multitude of other topics, such as, conflict resolution, differentiating between normative and potentially dangerous behaviors and feeling, getting to know residence hall staff….and MORE!
After reading this chapter, we made a shift in our household and we began referring to ourselves as our sons roommates. When he was too loud playing Fortnite after midnight, the text we sent him shifted from “Bro!” to “Your Roommates are sleeping, can you keep it down.”
When he did not clean up after himself, we would take a picture of it and text it to him, “Your roommates are not your maid.” You understand me.
Our son is an extrovert, but initiating conversation with someone he does not know can be intimidating; and understandably so. However, when his university sent him his roommate match, he was prepared with the list of questions he received from this book and proactively reached out.
They hit it off! We even set up a video call to meet the parents of his roommate and they were excited to know that their son had already been in contact with his roommate without them having to ask.
The book empowered our son to take action and it had a positive impact on his roommate as well.
CHAPTER 5: Going Pro: Professionalism in College Academics
This chapter was a game changer as well. Please, Please hear me. I am NOT doing this book any justice. There are soooo many nuggets that I highlighted. This chapter helped us compare our sons current study habits and tendencies with what’s required to for him to do college well! This prompted many reminders and conversations over dinner and in real time as we observed behaviors that were not consistent to what we learned.
Getting to know your professors and ensuring that they know you is another pro-tip and life skill from the book and should carry beyond. This book masterfully provided ideas to ensure you are known and supported by your professors, including a template for emailing them prior to the start of the semester; which our son is currently completing.
From managing their time to how to create an assessment calendar, this chapter provided not just how-to’s but explained WHY it was important to their success to do these things well!
I could go on and on, but in closing, we will just give you the sections of the book. There are 3-4 chapters per section, but the sections below will help you understand how beneficial it would be to read the book for yourself.
- Intro to Students
- We Need To See Other People: A Letter to Parents & Families
- Part 1: The New College You
- Part 2: College is School
- Part 3: Take Care of YOU
- Part 4: The Resident Expert
- Part 5: Money Talks
- Part 6: Life Beyond the Classroom
- Part 7: Your To-Do List
We bought 3 books for our household and we gifted it to 8 other college students who will be transitioning from high school to college this year.
We hope it helps you as much as it blessed us.
– The Winning Team
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