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Being Busy Will Break You!

Posted: December 17, 2025 in marriage
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CLICK HERE to watch the full episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast “Being Busy Will Break You!“

When couples feel near but far, the problem is rarely love. More often, it’s busyness disguised as purpose.

Our time in Miami became an intentional pause, a deliberate reset that exposed a truth WE had to face again. Being busy will break you if you are not careful. It can fracture connection, mute intimacy, and slowly pull your marriage off mission. WE were reminded that proximity does not equal connection. You can share the same space, the same calendar, even the same bed, and still miss each other emotionally.

Busyness creates motion without presence. And constant motion can hide emotional distance for years.

Through rest, prayer, and candid conversations, WE examined the stories WE had been telling ourselves about productivity, success, and doing “good things.” The goal was never a grand gesture. What our marriage needed was a renewed rhythm, fewer distractions, clearer motives, and daily choices that protect connection and shared purpose.

When Busy Becomes a Burden

One of the most sobering realizations was this. Good things can still break you when they are misprioritized.

Careers, parenting, service, and ministry matter, but they cannot replace attention at home. When busyness becomes a badge of honor, it quietly becomes a burden. WE asked ourselves a question that changed everything.

Whose vision are WE building, God’s or our own desires?

God-sized assignments often feel bigger than our capacity. They require faith, patience, and partnership. Personal ambition often feels urgent and self-driven. That distinction helped us reframe productivity as stewardship, not status. WE committed our plans to God, acknowledged seasons where parenting and careers eclipsed connection, and accepted a truth WE had to relearn. Rhythm beats perfect balance. Rhythm adapts to seasons without abandoning the covenant.

From Awareness to Action

Awareness without action does not create change.

WE are rewriting the vision and making it plain, breaking it into daily, weekly, and quarterly practices. WE are preparing to do better time-blocking with no-technology evenings, and committing to phone-free days. WE are working to identify all things that drains our attention, then establish boundaries to protect what mattered most.

Time is one of the rarest resources we have. WE decided to invest it first in our marriage, then in everything else. Whether written on paper or stored digitally, the act of writing clarified motives, strengthened accountability, and gave us a shared map for decision-making. When life pulled us off course, the plan helped bring us back.

Why Rest Is Resistance

Being busy will break you if rest is treated as optional.

Romans 12 challenged us to renew our minds instead of conforming to hustle culture. Matthew 6 reminded us to seek the kingdom first and trust God. That led to countercultural decisions, guilt-free rest, intentional pauses, and saying no to good opportunities to protect the best ones.

Unchecked busyness numbs awareness, dries affection, and can even justify neglect at home under the banner of doing good. Rest restores clarity. It protects intimacy. It strengthens faith. In marriage, rest is not laziness. It is obedience.

The Power of Intentional Pauses

Finally, WE leaned into intentional pauses.

Changing the scenery, whether a beach, a park, or a simple walk, interrupts autopilot and creates space to listen. If you work with your mind, rest with your hands. If you work with your hands, rest with your mind. These moments allow couples to prune distractions, revisit their assignment, and trust that God is ordering their steps.

Connection grows when attention is given, purpose is shared, and plans are prayed over. Presence will always matter more than proximity. A marriage on mission does not thrive by doing more. It thrives by choosing what matters most, together.

CLICK HERE to watch the full episode of WE3 The Winning Team Podcast “Being Busy Will Break You!“

How to Fix Communication in Relationships

Posted: September 15, 2025 in Resources
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WE3 The Winning Team Podcast | Season 2 | Episode 4

Communication is the foundation of every successful marriage, yet it remains one of the most challenging aspects for many couples to master. In our latest episode, How to Fix Communication in Relationships, WE explored the real questions couples are asking about communication and provided practical strategies to transform how partners interact with each other.

The first step to improving communication is adopting a teammate mindset. Too often, couples approach conversations as opponents rather than allies working toward a common goal. This fundamental shift in perspective changes everything about how WE communicate. Good teammates don’t fight each other, don’t focus solely on their own needs, and are willing to do whatever necessary to win together. It’s fascinating how WE understand this concept perfectly in sports or workplace settings but struggle to apply it in our marriages.

Misunderstandings often stem from how WE listen to each other. Active listening requires your full attention…what WE call “listening with your face.” This means putting down your phone, making eye contact, and being fully present. When misunderstandings occur, rather than repeating the same ineffective explanation, try asking clarifying questions: “What did you hear me say?” or “Let me understand what you meant by that.” The goal isn’t to be right but to achieve clarity and understanding.

Scripture provides excellent guidance for communication: “Let every person be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry” (James 1:19). Notice it says “every person”, not just your spouse. This responsibility falls on both partners. Creating space for reflection between responses allows for processing time, especially for those who need to think deeply about what was said before responding.

Passive-aggressive behavior indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of addressing them openly creates unnecessary tension in relationships. This pattern often emerges when couples haven’t identified aligned goals for their conversations. When you notice passive-aggressive responses (saying “I’m fine” while actions clearly indicate otherwise), avoid assuming negative motives. Instead, create a safe space for honest discussion when your partner is ready: “I can see you’re not okay right now, but I’m here when you want to talk about it.”

Timing plays a crucial role in effective communication. Having serious conversations during inappropriate moments (like during an important game or when distracted) sets the interaction up for failure. Choose moments when both partners can be fully present and engaged. Sometimes this means scheduling conversations for later rather than demanding immediate attention.

WE‘ve found several practical tools that have transformed our own marriage communication.

  • 1) Promote active listening by hearing first and responding later.
  • 2) Gently name passive-aggressive patterns to prevent resentment from building.
  • 3) Choose safe timing for tough conversations by preparing the environment and ensuring privacy.
  • 4) Use deep connection prompts like “How can I support you?” that demonstrate you see, hear, and value your spouse.
  • 5) Regularly ask “How can I help?” a simple question that reinforces your commitment to being on the same team.

Communication is not a one-time fix but an ongoing practice that requires daily attention. With intentionality and these practical tools, couples can transform their conversations from potential battlegrounds into opportunities for deeper connection. Remember, you’re not just communicating – you’re building a winning team where both partners feel understood, valued, and supported.

For more, check out the entire episode below. This is only part 1. We had audio issues so will release part 2 very soon, where we will answer the final three questions.